That’s the only way most people learn.
In fact, for most things, its better to learn from ones’ mistakes
(whether a kid, a teen, or adult), as the lesson will be learned
and ingrained hard and fast into the memory. The teenagers I feel
badly for are those who cannot break free from their parents, who
agree with almost everything their parents say.
Otherwise, even the most intelligent of teenagers may become
slave to their mother (or whoever the primary *power* figure was in
their childhood) all throughout the rest of the parent’s life.
Once the parent gets older, and stays just as demanding (if not moreso),
the ‘child’ (who is now an adult, at least in age) feels compelled
to help out and pamper. Works out great for the parent.
But completely misses the point of raising a child.
You *don’t* and *shouldn’t* and *can’t* raise a child and honestly
*expect* them to follow your every whim.
Then you have raised your own personal slave. For life.
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