“You can just say thank you. I know how you are about hugs and I’m the same way. I don’t like forced hugs either.”

I like the careful wording and gender name switching in the quote. he to she to they. Covers the bases.

And this quote is so true:

I never liked forced hugs as a kid nor did I ever force them on others.

When my niece turned 11, I gave her one of those “prepare for adolescence” type books. Dealing with crappy middle school, crappy high school, dealing with stereotyping, stuff like that. I wanted her armed with coping skills.

Now, her family was (is) all about hugs. Hugs your mother. Hug your sister. Hug your brother. Hug your uncle. All fake stuff.

I wrote a note on the inside of it, just for her to see:

After some motivational stuff in the note, I added, “You can just say thank you. I know how you are about hugs and I’m the same way. I don’t like forced hugs either.”

She was glad. Even though her family still kept doing the forced hug thing, at least she knew with me, she didn’t have to. And, she didn’t.

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