I was raised with a military that was both male and female and voluntary.
I was raised where doctors were both male and female.
I was at the tail end of the days when they used to have separate job listings for men and women in the newspaper.
I was raised with an egalitarian mindset.
(I think I did involve myself in a couple of “we should probably stop circumcision” arguments).
But if you are suggesting that military and civilian can be substituted by men vs women, that’s not how my mind works.
And we apparently have been talking past each other.