What you wrote is beautiful and I suspect deeply personal. I’ve had to forgive while adjusting my trust levels many times . There are people that I know won’t physically stab me but not to lend money to in the future for example.
I go “Mea Culpa” and learn. I forgive but I also modify.
Old English forgiefan “give, grant, allow; remit (a debt), pardon (an offense),”
Or in the world of debt, forgiving a debt means completely wiping it out, which affects both the creditor and the debtor.
A notion of one-sided forgiveness is historically kind of new. It’s a good thing but it’s kind of new.
I know. But that’s why you also have the notion of forgiveness as total reconciliation between parties.
There’s conflicting notions as to the nature of forgiveness that’s all.
Now, I’m not a fan of evolutionary biology — I find it to be “just so” stories that are ad-hoc and mostly ridiculous. BUT, they litter the scientific papers.
With that cavaet, their approach in this paper is considering forgiveness from a social angle rather than a psychological angle.
But your emphasis is on the psychological angle of forgiveness which I think is far more valuable than any group-social function it may or may not have.