Well, I suspect I’m on the autistic spectrum somewhere. Could be wrong about that. Might be a nice sociopath – I dunno.
I don’t like people having bad feelings generally because I’m empathetic and I don’t like the awkward sensation of knowing someone’s having bad feelings.
At the same time, it’s not life-or-death for me either. I can turn it off as well mostly.
I can turn my own on and off when I need to. Might make me sociopathic? I dunno.
I automatically sense someone’s feelings – even online when someone’s writing and I read for a bit; it’s not hard to see if someone’s lying or honest, genuine or fake, feeling or trolling or thinking or whatever. Just have to see their writing for a bit.
But it’s a feeling, not something I put into words automatically.
But, I -can- put it into words if I have to.
I know I’m not black + white generally. Sometimes I can be. But I don’t think being black+white is something that’s exclusive to sociopath or autistic either.
Well, afaik, sociopath is now officially an word that USED to mean something in psychiatric circles, but now it’s a word in common use. They’ve changed the standards and removed it from the manual.
Oh that. I’ve done both. I own/run a business now. Once I had a fancy systems analyst job. Temp work before that. But I don’t overly stress when I can help it. As long as I have basics, I’m fine. My basics aren’t 3rd world basics granted, but basic for 1st world.
I’ve seen few ppl with deep emotional attachments except to their pets and kids maybe. I’ve seen a lot of marriages faking it well. Some have ‘true love’ but I think the “truly understanding someone’s feelings” thing is a bit of mythology. I tend to see relationships of people constantly negotiating. But there’s love in there – it’s not all Adam Smith.
Criminal psychologists tell a nice story that ppl want to hear about the wicked man that murdered their [person of import to them]
THEN AGAIN: If I’m on the autistic spectrum and/or in the sociopath/aspd category and have “shallow emotions” – I _would_ see things that way, and be incapable of anything deeper.
There’d be no way for me to know.