We need to adjust what the norms are
Being in a debilitating anxiety state is a normal part of the human Spectrum and in no way should anxiety be such an ostracized or poo pooed position to find one’s self in in relation to notions of self vs societal norms.
Although perhaps a neurodivergent normal helps give some of the benefits of that when Society isn’t quite ready to face that
An 8-9-year-old suffering from anxiety issues shouldn’t be met with a “you poor thing” nor with a “buckle up, buttercup”