Unfortunately, self-promotion *does* work with a large part of the population. I don’t fully understand it and never did, only parts of it make sense.
Maybe they think if they attach themselves to *who they think is* a successful person, some will flake off on them? I dunno.
Well, look at fangirl/fanboy phenomenon. Someone says “I’M THE GREATEST!” and they get millions to agree “YES YOU ARE THE GREATEST!”
Some people get obsessed, wrapping their worlds around that person.
They imagine depths that aren’t there. It’s a form of insanity? Yes. But it’s common.
=== You’re talking about a “true friendship” level, the kind most people only get when their in elementary/middle school (if they’re lucky) or maybe a little later, but opportunities often disappear in adulthood when adult crap takes over and I think a lot of people spend their lives chasing after the true friend that’s out there somewhere.
Or I could be speaking of myself I went through a phase once of binging on “coming of age” movies. They always show true friendships, friends that are always there for each other, etc and thinking, “Man, why can’t you get that as an adult?”
So what I’m talking about might not be universal. But I try.
Not psychologically healthy, no. I’m amazed at how common it is, and how it’s not limited to 11-14 yr olds.
You’re right. Yeah, i think I went down the rabbit hole here.
I relate this to stand up comedians. A good stand up comedian uses “self-effacing” humor along with whatever else they do. They gotta make fun of themselves a little. One of their flaws or whatever.
But if they do it *too* much (like a fat comedian always making fat jokes), it’s too much. Or if they do it too little, they just come across as shallow at best, cocky or an unfunny asshole at worst.