Here’s the Federal (USA) guidelines. It includes links to State guidelines as well.
Generally it’s Physical, Sexual, Neglect, Abandonment, Emotional.
As Physical, Sexual, Neglect and Abandonment are pretty clear, let me find what they mean by Emotional…
Ok, here’s one definition:“Emotional abuse is the suffering serious emotional damage, or the substantial risk of suffering serious emotional damage, as evidenced by severe anxiety, depression, withdrawal or aggressive behavior toward self or others, as a result of the conduct of the parent or guardian.”
These definitions do a good job of it. But I’ll see if there’s a chart somewhere. This way you can see what might be missing from it.
The UK has a different problem and they’ve had it for a VERY long time: Their child protective services are *too* powerful. A documentary called TRAFFIC was made a couple of years ago about. Granted, like most documentaries, you have to take it with a grain of salt: There’s definitely actors in there, recreations, and because it’s showing a singular point of view, it’s unbalanced and designed to persuade you to believe a singular particular way in the end.
The USA, CPS is unbalanced as well, and how they are depends on what State in the USA you’re in. I don’t know if any state has a well run CPS… some let neglect continue, some are too “proactive”, akin to the UK, and really, it’s a mess wherever you go. It’s amazing it works at all when it does.
So, I dunno. Wherever you go, it looks like the systems need major overhauls… yet, I wouldn’t even know where to begin with any of it.
Interesting: With the passage of the legalization of marijuana, has there been an increase of severe drug addiction or less? Or, in short, are more kids going into Foster care or less?I’d thought about become a foster parent, even when I was a teenager . Still never did it. I had neighbors around the corner: an older couple who were foster parents. I was friends with two of their foster kids that were around my age. The idea of foster parents seemed so interesting: Both of the kids came from bad backgrounds: neither one wanted ANYTHING to do with their birth parents, so it was a good match up, and they were good parents, although these were their last: they were in their early 70s by then and didn’t want to take on any new foster kids. Very dedicated people.
Yeah – I’m not a professional about any of this stuff, but it sounds like (from what you’re said so far) that CPS wouldn’t do anything about it. If you’re scalded by the stove, tied up in a closet to starve, things like that, you’d have a shot but you’re in an awkward legal zone right now: ‘They’ figure you’ll just ‘deal with it’ until you’re of the age of majority yet they know you can’t exactly go and get a job to support yourself to convince a judge that you can handle emancipation.
So, sounds like the justice system doesn’t have a pathway for you.So, youth rights is a logical area for you to work in.You could look at emancipation. I don’t know what’s involved with that, except I think you have to get a job, have to prove you have a place to stay (and I think you have to actually live there for a period of time) and that you can support yourself on your own.
As far as inbetween emancipation and foster system, well, I can see you have options of “deal with it” or “run away”. But maybe within the “deal with it” category, there’s a LOT of great work you can do for youth rights, in the process also helping many OTHER people as well.
There’s probably options inbetween “deal with it” and “run away” – but everybody’s being noisy here at the house and I can’t concentrate right now
I’m very proud that you’re doing it. Some people live vicariously through people playing sports: They cheer when their person gets a touchdown/a goal/gets the ball through the thing, whatever.But for me, I live vicariously through people who are living stuff on my bucket list. And, well, you’re doing one of them. So, as proud as I’d be for myself if I made it to that, I’m proud of you.
Ah! Ok – I never asked and going by your postings, I’d assumed you might have been under the age of majority looking for a way out. So, like me, it’s empathy: You remember what it was like being choiceless. Yeah, I never forgot it myself. Reading those stories from people from that Reddit, I empathize with them. I either dealt with some of it, or had friends who did and I remember their pain and struggle.
One kid who was a member of my Minecraft server a few years ago – his name was Noah… one day sent me a very long private message. I don’t usually ‘do’ private messages: I don’t like getting too involved in people’s lives tbh.
But Noah was one of those “deep souls”. I never ask people their ages but I think he was somewhere around 14/15 when he wrote me the message.
Anyway, he was running away. He went through his plan of action, apologized that he’d be disappearing (from Google+ and the Minecraft server). I responded, gave some advice but mostly “good luck!”, he responded back positively. and *poof* just like that, he disappeared.
A year after that, I’d shut the server down and wasn’t using G+ as much, but I still kept 1/2 an eye out for him.
One day ,somebody new requested my friendship. New name. But, it was him. 18 months had gone by: he was offline for a year and a half.
He was doing great. His plan had gone very well, with some hiccups. The people he was staying with were good people and he’d reconciled with his mother, although his father wouldn’t speak to him.
After a few messages, he vanished again. But at least I knew he was safe enough and had the smarts to figure out what he needed to.
You should’ve seen his Minecraft creations: he was wicked smart with redstone: definite brain on him – and he’s using it for what matters to him: his freedom.