Too many folks got their ideas about “honesty” from Hollywood tough guys and gossiping mean girls in school.
Honesty is related to honor, showing respect to, transparency. lifting up.
The false notion of “brutal honesty” is, as I was saying to Steve, a hack allowing “unfiltered opinion” to usurp the name of “honesty” and give people license to say whatever they feel like to another without regard to consequence, in the guise of “I was only trying to help” but entirely lacking in respect, which is part of honor, which is part of honesty.