Then the student becomes a test for the teacher to see if the teacher needs teaching by the student so that the teacher can teach the student the teaching the student taught the teacher and help them both.
Having worked with kids (and this is equally true with adults that look up to you), there’s often a point where everything you said gets flipped back on you in a negative way, or at least it seems so.
“son killing the father” archetype but it’s that type of thing.
But really, it’s a test. “How good of a teacher were you REALLY? Let’s see how much you can take before you break.”
and if you survive, you both win. If you crack, the student wins and you also win because you’ve learned your own limits.
It’s autonomy, part of the process.