from a friend writing about having to put his son on low-dose adhd medicine.. i feel like it could’ve been me there… both parts…
He just has a different brain. I struggle with knowing it’s not all his fault that the social constructs we have for learning don’t fit how he functions so HE has to be altered…but, that’s a power I can’t really fight. And I’ve treated too many adults who were unmedicated as children and self-medicated later on because of all the anger and frustration from unsuccessful early school years and constant feelings of failure. It’s about how he sees himself too. The action in his head is like the Indy 500 and every car is in the lead..
[====]your description of your emerging acceptance of Joey’s ADHD and the process of reconciling the cognitive dissonance (which must have been (or “be” rather) a tough process… made me pause.
You’re in a unique position of being able to see things from a scale most people don’t. You’ve seen the effects of the anger and frustration of people who were untreated early on and chose to self-medicate (having little other recourse that they were aware of) later on. In effect, you saw an alternate timeline of a dreadful kind. I can’t imagine how that must’ve felt when it clicked in as being even the REMOTEST of possibilities.
You’re stepping forward gingerly, carefully yet also confidently. I applaud you and, I’m proud.