It’s best NOT to respond to them if you’re not interested based solely on their stated age and appearance.
You’ll feed into their fantasy. Some of them feed off of rejection. Think about that.
If you’re on a dating site, doesn’t matter what you request. After you’re 21, you’re fair-game from age 21-death and any age inbetween.
Join the meat market and you’re gonna get a lot of dried out beef.
If they’re contact you on that network, you’re on the wrong network.
I know it matters.
I’m not saying things SHOULD be that way.
I’m just saying that they ARE that way.
I wish it could change. I also don’t date for that reason. I’ve been treated like an object, judged by my income, hairstyle, clothing, where I live, what car I drive. I know how it feels.
They *should* respect it but they won’t.
I’ll use myself as an example:
My ne is 10.
I’m 43 years old.
I’m ancient to him. I expect that. To my older brother and his generation, I’m “just a kid”.
Now he has an aunt who is 22 years old.
She thinks she’s modern. To her, she’s 2015. But she’s not. She’s 2005… and it shows. But she can’t see it. My ne sees it because he’s 10 and is with the new generation. I see it because I’ve always noticed changing fads and fashions.
So, it’s all relative. He may be old to you, but you may be old to someone who is younger. Just how it is – not a bad thing. Hope you don’t think I’m being mean; age is just one of those weird things about life
I know you’re not doing this; so I don’t mean it for this situation in particular; you have a right to date whatever age you like and people _should_ respect your wishes. But in the dating game, you’ll always have to fight.
I made this graphic a while back to explain ageism. What you’re doing isn’t “ageist”; I’m not trying to imply that… just illustrating something that we often don’t think much about.
Oh, I’m not saying it’s ageism in this case. She has a right to declare her wishes.
The fact that other people don’t RESPECT those wishes is rudeness.
It’s not rude to ask. It’s rude to not respect it. I agree with that.
I’m just saying _why_ that is. I’m not implying anybody is stupid. I haven’t met a stupid person yet.
I don’t think they’re stupid. I think THEY believe they’re God’s gift to women. That’s not stupid, just being narcissistic. Everybody suffers from a little tinge of that.
I don’t date but I mock myself openly to keep myself humble. I’m as narcissistic as the next person so I figured, why not run with it?
They came out with a new Earth Flag a few days ago. Made the news. So I figured, hey, if there’s going to be a new Earth Flag, I might as well assign myself as President of Planet Earth. I’m the right age for Presidency, I have no political aspirations and really I don’t take myself seriously at all.
https://vine.co/v/ebXhU0UIq6j
I even came up with an Earth Theme Song. If I’m going to play with my Narcissistic side, might as well go all the way. After all, don’t we all express our opinions as if the whole Planet should listen to our opinions? tongue emoticon