That’s basic adulting though. Like, if you know Xavier doesn’t want to hear about his balding ’cause he’s heard it 10000 times before from others, and you say something anyway and persist? You won’t be asked over for BBQ’s anymore.

That’s basic adulting though. Like, if you know Xavier doesn’t want to hear about his balding ’cause he’s heard it 10000 times before from others, and you say something anyway and persist? You won’t be asked over for BBQ’s anymore.

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You were lecturing. If that person is overweight, I’m sure they heard it 10,000 times (actual #’s) before.

Persisting is what got you blocked.

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Sounds like you were playing “daddy knows best” here.

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Ok. Is it usually women that block you?

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  Now I know you’re full of shit about the gay men. Sounds like you harass women ’til they block you and get salty about it.Bad habit. You should stop.
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  Call me skeptical. Regardless, if somebody’s calling you a rapist in some fashion and blocks you, they see something about you that you can’t see.It’s like the back of your head. Everybody else can see what you’re blind to.’
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Hm. Did you use rape as a metaphor?
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It wasn’t indefinite though.
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  It did though. You reached the organic ending.
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 You weren’t needed any more and got pruned. You didn’t listen to warnings and that was that.
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It’s a “suck it up buttercup” moment.
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Sometimes there’s no explicit, word-for-word warning. It’s a feel you get when listening to their responses.Suddenly you realize “I’m asserting myself into them too hard and will lose the connection if I persist. Step back, agree a bit, wait for the right moment to continue”.
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  Conversation is a dance. Thrusting yourself continually forward into somebody until their back’s against the wall might be fun among friends horsing around but in serious conversations, it gets you the trap door under your feet.**plonk** is what it was called way back.
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  I’d love to give you sympathy but being salty about getting blocked and on top of it making into a political thing is weak sauce.
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I’ve gotten worse though. I’ve only unfriended about 3 ppl in 11 yrs on FB.Last week. Online friend. He was starting to harass other friends, dragging shit from their profiles and threatening to call the cops on them.

“Just jokes” he said later. But after a night of trying to get him to see how fucked up his behavior was (it wasn’t my first time having friends complain to me about him), I unfriended him.

His response? Spamming my profile and a few friends profiles for a day or two. Grown man too.

I talked straight with him for a couple of hours. He JUST couldn’t see that he did anything wrong. Blind to himself.

Anyway, I don’t want that to be anybody’s fate.

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  Last note on this: You weren’t blocked.

So, really try to see what you look like from their eyes.

If it ‘hits you’ and you can? Apologize.

If you can’t see it, well, this pattern will always be your fate eventually.‘

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