The “Half your age plus 7 rule” is a guideline for “general social acceptability”. It’s tame, safe, and anybody who criticizes age differences in relationships within the green range is ridiculous It happens but it’s usually teasing or mean-spiritedness. Now, I’ve calculated your coordinates. I had to figure out how to divide a box into 5 parts which was a fun little challenge. I realized that two rectangles inside each other with a line in the middle, paying attention to the spaces being even would get me here. So, what this chart says to me is: You’ll get flak from some people.

The “Half your age
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Ok, I looked up the author so I could form a context. [this is standard process for me] Leah McLaren is a long time, professional columnist for quite a number of publications, mostly in Canada and the UK. A columnist’s job is to be readable entertainment, just shocking enough to hold attention but not so much as to incite riots. Her style is: HERE IS MY SHOCKING CONFESSION. A look through her past and current work and it’s clear. The thing about columnists: They aren’t fact checked. None of them are. It’s entertainment to get you mad or make you nod in agreement but mostly just written to be read. Columnists make things up. Use humor and exaggeration. Outright lie for some effect. And in that world, it’s all ok for whatever reason. So, I have context now and I’ve shared it. Best summary for context is this, found here: ” Many, perhaps most, are hired to be provocative, to say surprising things, to start a debate or even an argument.”

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I was doing a paradigm shift. I moved from the notion of the post away from Religion of Logic towards Conversational Etiquette, shifting it from an ostensibly masculine undertaking (LOGIC-AS-FOUNDATION-OF-ALL-THINGS) to an ostensibly feminine undertaking (MISS-MANNERS-SUGGESTS-A-BETTER-WAY-TO-ENGAGE-TO-AVOID-UNNEEDED-ROUGHNESS) in an attempt to remove its perceived power in the original context. Sexist? Nah. Playing with stereotypes against possible stereotype users? Indeed.

I was doing a
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What are some odd traditions you endured as a kid that had a lasting impact on you? You don’t have to watch the video to answer. (Context: Youth Pastor invited local kids to spit on him, slap him and cut him with a steak knife which he thought was a good illustration of what Jesus went through. He’s apologized and police say what he did was within the realm of normal. I got my own thoughts about this but I’m more curious about odd things, religious or school or home or among friends that you later thought, “what the heck?”).

What are some odd

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My great-great-great-great grandfather, born 1827 Csicsó, Tolna, Hungary (Austria) Came to the USA in 1855. CONTEXT: In the USA, when he was born: President: John Quincy Adams (DR/NR-Massachusetts) Vice President: John C. Calhoun (D-South Carolina) Chief Justice: John Marshall (Virginia) Privilege isn’t today’s $$$ in the bank or your parents or grandparents. Privilege is having a picture of my g-g-g-g grandfather, born in 1827 in Austria when John Q Adams was President of the USA while other ancestors that linked up later had been living in Branford, CT, New Haven Colony, Long Island, Elizabeth, NJ from the early 1600s onwards with the ability to find their records and stories and artifacts.

My great-great-great-great grandfather, born
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