Spin. It is a powerful thing. People believe what they’re already prone to believing and if you word things in a believable way, people are more likely to believe you.
Used by politicians, news media, wives, husbands and preschoolers alike –
It’s nearly invisible when you know your audience right; you’re telling them what they expect you to say and they like that; people like hearing what they want to hear.
None of it has to have any bearing on truth. But truth doesn’t exist in a world of spin. Does it even exist at all? Who knows. I suppose in the end it comes down to the effectiveness of stories.
Having a strong BS detector is a good skill. Most people have simple rules, “person smiles too much, must be lying/hiding something”. “the guy who says trust me, you shouldn’t trust” but they’re only of limited effectiveness.
In the end, you have to listen for the holes. There’s always holes.
Pointing them out isn’t required, just noticing quietly is enough to help keep you from completely swallowing a spin. I usually let people have their stories and spins; makes ppl happy to believe I believe as thankfully, most spin is mostly harmless ultimately. Mostly.
It’s also led to divorce and wars and murder. Over-reliance on spin becomes “YOU LIED TO ME!” and,well, that’s trouble. If you like spinning, toss a little truth in there sometimes, if honesty is unpalatable. I like the taste of honesty but some people find honesty as palatable as eating hair.