On each side of divisive issues, one is not encouraged to speak of certain things.
If one is pro-choice, bringing up the pain puts you in the pro-life camp.
If one is pro-life, bringing up the idea that they’re one person until the the fetus has viability (can life separately with medical support), then you’re put in the pro-choice camp.
In short, it’s a social convention. It’s not lack of awareness : it’s sticking to a political side for a ‘greater purpose’.
Each side (pro-choice / pro-life) taken to extremes, goes too far. If you take pro-choice too far, you have mothers killing their children freely. If you take pro-life too far, women have to be submissive to their husbands in all things, can’t leave the house without an escort, and have to accept being beaten as natural.
So each side holds firm to their stance and avoids certain topics in public discourse.
In my opinion, if the State wants to keep all children, then they need to develop the facilities to do so. At present, it’s inadequate. Going through pregnancy isn’t a punishment for having sex nor should it be. I consider only the mother existing until the point that medical science can remove the fetus and take care of the fetus as a separate person.
Until then, there’s just one person there.
At present, in most places it seems, fetal viability is the criteria for the point where there is another person there. I think it’s an acceptable criteria.
Looks like 24 weeks is the accepted age of generally accepted fetal viability.
As medical science improves, that will continue to drop.
Now if they could provide guaranteed maternal support for all citizens and fix the foster care system, maybe their pro-life dreams would be practical to see realized.
’til then though, pro-choice must continue.
About 10 percent of women (6.1 million) in the United States ages 15-44 have difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
“That means: 90% of 6.1m people or 5,490,000 people could definitely be pregnant at any moment of time, at any day.It’s higher than that because puberty starts young for some women, as young as 8 years old, and some women are capable of getting pregnant older than 44 years of age.That’s a lot of people in a lot of life situations that will have to deal with a lot of complications that I can’t possibly go through at this point.For me to lightly say, based on some ideals I have, “You should spent 9 months of your life doing [x]”, while I sit back behind my computer safe and never in their bracket of ever having to concern myself with becoming pregnant… to me, is ridiculous.
Can you understand another person’s life experience that you have not led?
If so, how?
If not, why not?
She’s basically an antinatalist although she probably never heard of it.
I’m not in the antinatalist camp in my ideals but in practice, I am. During a phase in my 20s when I was very religious (even in a monastery for a bit), a young friend who sometimes asked for money approached me.
[WARNING: long anecdote. Ignore if you only want a dialectic]
Usually it’s to fix a car or something and he was getting on his feet, so I didnt’ mind helping as his mother couldn’t help and her mother was too wrapped up in herself.
They were both teenagers, about 15-17 yrs old.
He approaches me at work. He has “that look” but wouldn’t talk. So, I prompted.
“You need money?”
After hesitation, “$330″.
My brain went in circles. “What could cost $330? Too cheap for a car repair, and his mom could give him $330…” Then it hit me.
“It’s for an abortion, isn’t it?”
He almost fell over in shock but I knew his life enough to know it couldn’t be too many things.
I didn’t hesitate. Even though I was in a super-religious phase in every other way, he’s my friend who needed help and he has to do what’s best for him and his family. Did it feel like blood money? Contribution to a murder?
But could I be pregnant? No.
Could I raise the child? No.
Could I see them losing their tenuous place in society, their home, her job, possibly his (no home, no job), take them in, fix their life?
It was a regretful necessity. No other option was viable.
If abortion was illegal? She’s still have had it… somehow. Might have cost her her life.