Oh very much. I’ve never had it confirmed fully that I’m ASD but any informal test I take puts me there, “Aspies” said “you’re one of us” – so I accept that I probably am.
I never had a problem walking into situations. I’ve heard a virtual record needle scratch as I walk into some situations. Every turns and looks my way with at “what is HE doing here?!” – and at that point I know that maybe I shouldn’t have.
But I don’t get a cartoon exaggerated response from a group, I know I won’t likely see the subtle glances and such. I mean I see them but they don’t register as all that important even though rationally I know they’re supposed to be.
I remember one job I had at an oil refinery.
First week of the job, I go to the lunchroom. Big giant place. Cheap food. I get on line, get my lunch and I find a free seat with a group and sit down.
Everybody else turned their heads but the group at the table were fine and chit-chatted. I’m not for small talk but I can do it with friendlies that know basic manners. [I know those rules]
I sat there for a few days and one day someone pulled me aside almost violently and said “what do you think you’re doing sitting over there? You don’t belong at that table”.
I asked why.
Apparently, it was the table where the BIG SHOTS sat at so as to be “one of the boys” – but it was all high level executives, like CEO/COO etc.
Well, because the guy was violent about it to my body, I sat somewhere else after that.
But I knew I could go over to that table and sit down. I felt no difference that I was a temp and they were millionaire big shots. We were all there to eat food.