Now what’s a *little* sad is when someone over 35 has the same Disney Princess dreams they had at 4 and want the perfect spouse, the perfect relationship, the perfect everything because they’re worth it. Still, I won’t ask them to give up on their princess dreams if it makes them happy but…

Now what’s a *little* sad is when someone over 35 has the same Disney Princess dreams they had at 4 and want the perfect spouse, the perfect relationship, the perfect everything because they’re worth it.

Still, I won’t ask them to give up on their princess dreams if it makes them happy but…

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and a guy over 35 who is lurking around trying to pick up women 23 yrs old and under is something that looks kind of pathetic to me. Then again college professors have been doing that forever but still…

Not necessarily. If someone’s got that worldly intelligence thing, I’m sure the guy can con her to get her to spend some of her college money on him, as she’s just done an “adopt a wizard” thing.
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if [age] >=< [#] then [status] ><= [y]

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i let ppl think what they will. 96% of the time it is and remains their problem only.

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That alpha/beta/gamma/delta stuff is high school BS. If you’re using as a personality sorting tool that’s fine so long as you don’t start the evolutionary psychology stuff. That’s when things stray from “hot or not” / “mate worthy vs cringe worthy” into bad science.

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here’s social classes, ’tis true. I suppose it’s no worse than messing around with myers briggs or ennagrams and such. But don’t forget two types: actors and sociopaths. They can imitate.

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Yes, stereotypical answering bot person. Thank you for the unique contribution.

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Facades of power are easy to achieve.

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Most who put themselves in the “alpha class” (or at the very least, “not the non-alpha classes” are posturing. Oddly, posturing is sometimes all you need if you live in a cocktail party world. Fake up your resume, get the nice haircut and say the right phrases, (which might be “only beta say that” in an internet forums) or power phrases learned from a “How To Succeed In Business” book – and you might find yourself climbing the paper mountain.

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Pairing can be a strength or weakness. I doubt one-size-fits-all.

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Humanity’s great. They should procreate as much as they like. Make new stuff. Consume. Create virtual spaces where people from far off geographical areas can complain about others.

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I think today’s people are awesome, except perhaps a little too down on themselves. Generation Y in particular seems to have a strange kind of implosive desire to off others in their own generation. I blame Fight Club and 90s overparenting.

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oh, and Quentin Tarantino. He ruined a generation’s minds.

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Not much for LiveLeak. 1/2 are faked from Brazilian film students.

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Too jaded to believe most viral stuff. My rule of thumb is unfortunately, the more shocking/amazing/viral it is, the less likely it’s related to truth. Sometimes I’m wrong though.

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Been working on teaching my 12 yr old nephew to be a good bullshit detector since he first got online at 7 with Minecraft and stuff. Seems to be working well. Sometimes he believes some Youtuber’s BS but a little logic puts his thinking back. [i let him figure it out]

He might but he knows Xbox culture is cancerous and despite the best efforts of the cancerous youtubers, he’s kept at least a little conscience so far. Hoping 7th grade doesn’t extinguish it as it does for so many others. Fingers crossed.

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Ethics / morals goes beyond majority rules though. There’s some intrinsic stuff somehow in the mix.

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Basic commonalities, with some exceptions now and again. Conscious or unconscious, mammalian, human or physics.

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Social constructs are easier to toy with though as nearly anything we might discuss will turn out to be that anyway. The more intrinsic stuff leads to weird discussions about causation, which leads to religion or evolution or some such, down many a blind alleyway.

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Social constructs exist in societies. People who don’t comply with social constructs are separated from the main part of that society and put into another corner of that society, usually prison or some second/third class status. [or the graveyard]

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They do, but that’s where discussions start to get weird.

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I can go wibbly-wobbly with a vague set of answers Sara. Generally agreed upon standards, like a “basic human rights” kit can work. The mistake the UN has made is working too hard in some areas and not enough work in others, giving them a weird lopsided effort. Shame ’cause they have the tools to do it right but they get caught up in faddishness.

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We humans tend to get stupid in groups of three or more. That’s my rule for that.

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Power is a relationship, I agree with Tyler. I’d even say that power is simply communication, negotiation, diplomacy.

Its not always obvious who communicates effective power in a relationship. The barking alpha rooster is allowed to believe he holds the power in many a relationship which is truly ruled by the quieter, “yes sir”. If you ever have an opportunity to work in a large office environment, don’t. But if you do, notice how the true lines of power NEVER go down the chain of command but squirrely, sideways and diagonally. “How stuff gets done” isn’t military,, even in military.

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What’s a right? oh jeez. I wouldn’t even know how to answer that and I’m usually the know-it-all type.

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I suspect “a right” is like defining ” what is love?” My rule for “what is love?” is first to see that it’s not a noun. It’s a verb. Active. Participatory. Moving.

I haven’t analyzed “a right” but I suspect it suffers from the same issue we have with “love” where someone looks for it “someplace” when it’s really a happening, not a noun.

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Yes. And a civilization, to me, would consist of minimizing the distance between have and have-not so that it can be at the level of what one might find among friendships or couples.

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The imbalance will always be there Sara. You don’t have to fear it ever going away.

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Between identical twins, there’s imbalance. There’s no need to exaggerate imbalance artificially or use things like, “it’s our nature” as poor excuses for bad behavior.

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I’ve heard so many excuses for bad behavior. Some I can accept, most are ridiculous. I don’t buy evolutionary excuses for bad behavior. “He’s an asshole because cavemen did [x] [y] [z]” :: looks for TARDIS, can’t find it:::. Or “Eve ate the apple”.

Yet, if it’s rooted in *today*, I can buy some of it. “Did bad things because he was caught up with all of his friends doing it” is a somewhat valid excuses for some behaviors. People get stupid in groups of three or more. Fits my rule. But when confronted and they STILL continue the behavior, then that excuse is gone. Once you’re aware, your ability to excuse bad behavior starts to go away. Maybe not completely but by quite a bit.

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But that’s where power diffs come into play as well. Sometimes you *can’t* act right even when you know better because you’re stuck in a low-power relationship. That’s when things get hard.

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Mental illness is personality differences that aren’t supported by society’s everyday institutions. You’re a weirdo and there’s no room for you at school. You can’t go to work because they don’t know what to do with you because you’re weird. The category of mental illness *is* useful in many cases because without it, there’s just plain old ostracizing, which is boring.

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Funny thing is, we’re all weird. Some learn to fake it better than others. The best fakers win the social game but they’re still weird.

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I’ve been sad. I’ve “said” that I’m depressed (around the age of 24 I had a bit of that). But that said, was I depressed? No. I had an extended case of melonchaly which I dealt with eventually.

Yet there are people who *are* depressed. It’s genuine. Can I relate to them? Only so far. Beyond that point, I can’t relate. So I believe them when they say they’re that way. What other choice do I have? Whether I can *fully relate* has no bearing on any actual mental illness they may have. It’s beyond me.

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eturning to this awkward post: I *did* stay in a monastery for a short bit when I was around 27-28 yrs old. Haha – it’s before 35 – I win!

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