No. They rely on teachers, friends and entertainment for that. After age 7, parental influence is minimal.

No. They rely on teachers, friends and entertainment for that. After age 7, parental influence is minimal.

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Basic developmental psychology stuff. Go through your own lives. Unless you were homeschooled, it was true for you too. Your parents voices got quieter and quieter and you paid more attention to your favorite games, TV shows, friends, teachers, heroes.

It’s a social explosion.

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12/13 is when they stop pretending. If you’re a friend you can keep getting adoration ’til then but if you’re a I AM TOUGH PARENT YOU LISTEN TO ME they’ll just mock you when you’re not around.

As far as under 7 goes? I dunno. I’ve always been “Uncle” role and I’d use a “think about it” and discussion way of discipline.

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2-7?
You’re already a lot bigger so anything you do is automatically magnified, whether physical force or appeal to reasoning.

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I was ADHD b4 they had diagnosis for it. Mom had very few rules but a strong personality. My older sister hogged up most of the spotlight and I was shadow and a nerd, so I was a good boy.

At 11, had to do biofeedback + guided meditation for “generalized anxiety disorder”, which now would probably be ADHD or part of. It worked.

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I count on hyperfocus to manage it a lot and get things done. Obsession to obsession.

Biofeedback is great. 11 yrs old in 1983 and I got to control a computer with only my mind controlling my body and body controlling my mind controlling a computer. Very god-like tbh. Sense of self-mastery.

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Probably why my lifelong love of computers. I know I can get them to do what I want with enough persuasion, whether programming, batch files, finding appropriate software, a site, whatever.

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Your emotions will always be your master but you can tame them somewhat. Just takes constant practice. The brain circuits squirt more amygdala stuff into prefrontal cortex stuff than prefrontal cortex stuff squirts into the amygdala. It’s an unbalanced yin-yang. But it’s worth working on.

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