Never much for club names. “Back in mae day” there was a pink triangle on a black background that said, “QUEER” and they were fighting AIDS and stuff. [they did good too; got the numbers way down with 12-15 years worth of continual work]. Wasn’t ’til 2002 that I learned that Rainbows were now used and things were a little less extreme.

Never much for club names. “Back in mae day” there was a pink triangle on a black background that said, “QUEER” and they were fighting AIDS and stuff. [they did good too; got the numbers way down with 12-15 years worth of continual work].

Wasn’t ’til 2002 that I learned that Rainbows were now used and things were a little less extreme.

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The difference in social acceptance between 1990 and 2017 is amazing to me. People are talking openly about stuff – whatever side of the fence they’re on – that NEVER would’ve been talked about before so openly.

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It was pretty open where I was too, but that’s because I avoided the negative people. I called myself “bi” in high school in the late 80s and was was all, “HEY EVERYBODY IM’ PANSEXUAL” in 1990/91 Hampshire College. But really I was just mucking around.

I’m thinking more about TV shows and things, who are always way behind. In some ways, we’ve gone backwards, but that the backwards people are even talking about these things is amazing, for at one time, they’d be like, “wait what? Not possible! Product of devil!”. You must remember when Dungeons & Dragons was a “tool of the devil”…. ugh… embarrassing times.

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In some ways… come to think of it, there’s been stagnation. the bathrooms at my college were men and women. Only took a day or two to get used to it.

We had whole floors that some groups would take over for themselves. they called them “safe spaces”, which I never expected to become a known term 25 years later.

The floor below me was the “lipstick lesbians” they called themselves. All black. The whole floor smelled of patchulli. I didn’t mind. some people on campus had a problem with it, as some do today, but never fazed me any.

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Microaggressions are real though. Consider it in reverse: Doesn’t being told over and over that there’s certain words that perhaps you shouldn’t use eventually get you to a breaking point?

That’s microaggressions. Goes both ways. They’re a reality.

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The difference is: one group is asserting themselves. The other group is reasserting their existing dominance. Which group is which? That depends on what side of the spectrum you put yourself in.

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I think people have the right to self-separate of their own choosing. I wouldn’t want to impose a “one rule fits all” on everybody. But I’d insist on diplomacy and cooperation.

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Problem with that logic is some groups start off three steps behind already. They’re not getting extra. They’re being made more even. Some of it’s being done poorly. That’s a problem. But the backlash from those who want to maintain existing power dynamics is strong because they want to keep their place at the top and don’t want to compete.

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Oxford is ALREADY a men’s club.

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Students. And what’s the administration?

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Sharon, do you find hearing the word Microaggression to be a microaggrression?

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After all, it’s just a word.

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From the US Small Business Administration. Males vastly outnumber females in certain professions. Even if females are starting to get the degrees (just starting), they’re not yet getting the jobs.

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a lot of it is societal. Example: I’m naturally a teacher / psychologist / guidance counsellor type. But I stayed out of education because of the politics. Single man working in schools means lots of skeptical eyes in the early 90s and probably today too, so I went into computers instead.

Just how it is. That’s why I know the same thing must happen in reverse because it happened to me.

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No. The reason was the same problem we have today: hyperbole from the news. Everything is DRAMATIC! It’s WOMEN’S FAULT! its’ MEN’S FAULT!” Those Dungeons and Dragons are SELLING your children’s SOULS to Satan!

And you’re doing it too. Its all [x] fault. That’s the problem.

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Are you talking about sociology? Social psychology? What field is feminist statistics?

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There’s “feminist studies” in schools but that’s not a scientific field. I imagine there are inroads into the sciences but as far as I know they’re humanities, like studying literature.

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Rape rates are very high at universities, even the most liberal of liberal arts. Bunch of horny men high and/or drunk ages 18-24 and you’re bound to find a few one-off date rapists and more than a few serial rapists who see themselves as “players”. It’s also a common age range for mental instabilities to emerge, so the previously “good boy” might get all animal and the previously stable straight A student girl might find herself with daily emotional problems. It’s a tough age to be.

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In Universities you’re dealing with 18-24 year old kids. Some people actually want to raise the age of majority to 23 or 24 (instead of 18) but I think the science behind that is more than a little flaky.

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Same thing happens in the lower grades. Colleges are going the way of high schools. Once you’ve got the taint of suspicion on you it makes the whole school look bad. It’s a political move to expel.

And Tom, that poster? Men rape women more than women rape men. Rape starts off on different footing before you even have a rape.

The equality isn’t there from the start. Once the rape happens, it’s statistically more likely that it was the man raping the woman.

Are there false accusations and exceptions? Of course.

Are they as common as actual drunk rapes of men against women? I doubt it.

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Domestic violence happens with women against men. Mild form is the “hen pecked husband”. Extreme form is physical and emotional abuse. Many a man got laughed out of the police station or court if they even make it that far.

But does it happen more than the standard case?

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It seems that perhaps they were right. Words matter. The difference between you and the ideology you oppose is the words you don’t like because words seem to matter.

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