I keep a couple of bigoted friends because I like to have a wide variety of opinions “on tap” for any issue I bring up.
It’s usually safer to ignore their opinions or hide them if they bother you.
I learn a lot about myself when I engage with people whose opinions VASTLY differ than mine but I try not to keep _too many_ around.
I like learning what makes me knee-jerk as it helps me question my own stance on things.
The hardest challenge for me was a year in Philosophy groups. The certain type of rhetoric and a/b logic was anathama to me for SO MANY YEARS and I would avoid it at all costs.
But after a year with them, I understand their way of thinking much better and can engage in conversations with them, once getting past the usually 20 questions logic games.
It’s true. I had to look up SIWOTI btw tongue emoticon
I’ve been online since 1989, so there’s really no conversation or personality I haven’t encountered but I engage better with some than others.
My personal goal is to have the ability to talk with anybody about anything, and turn an unreasonable conversation or debate into an opportunity for finding consensus.
It’s a quirk of mine though. I’m 43 yrs old now. When I was 18 at a hippie college (Hampshire College), I was a pain then too. I’d say, “How can you call yourself “tolerant” if intolerant of intolerant people? Aren’t you just seeking your own kind like they are?”
and stuff like that. Lost some friends. Gained a few others.