Mine were kind of weak but that’s ok – the only one I was ever diagnosed with was the very first one so I felt represented – AND he stuck ALL THE PHOBIAS (except a few) under its umbrella, which really felt representing — and I _did_ in fact get biofeedback / guided meditation / control-a-computer-with-your-FEEELINGS 1980s thick chunky headphones and sticky pads, computer making sounds and visuals to my skin galvinization … mini meditation lessons “You are a warm bottle lying in the sand”, “breath through your feet”, set to birds chirping on cassette tapes at 11 years old…
…and although it wasn’t perfect, yeah, all that stuff (plus 25 years of smoking that I finally quit a couple of years ago), is “basically” more or less manageable with continual application of these placebo based techniques.
Of course, there’s OTHER stuff that those techniques DON’T manage – and even whether or not the techniques manage it is debatable – GAD does kind of rule things and it may be more than that – but I have a good sense of AGENCY when I apply those things and if nothing else, that sense of agency helps push through
=-=oh yeah that’s something I keep working on too. One of my favorite little things to go through is once upon a time I got a CD-ROM (lol can’t believe they were at thing) teaching you how to read Microexpressions. – and I went through all the lessons to learn the little eyebrow raises, the snarl of the nose, etc. I think in the end I learned to rationally reason my way into making decent guesses when I’d see those microexpressions on people – although doing it in real time was far too stressful, but at least on TV it was doable.
oh i have a lot of trouble naming my feelings and I’m clueless at identifying other people’s feelings. I mean, not totally; I can empathize if someone’s in that lost state of mind; I can easily join them right there and feel their confusion and uncertainty and anxiety – likely because it matches my own (reverberating or whatever like two strings plucked tuned to the same frequency) – but if there’s a mismatch, I cant’ always go where they are as I don’jt often know where they are – sometimes I don’t even know there’s ANYTHING to be concerned about