Lots of kids like to dress up and “be a star”. As long as the parents are nearby during their social media experiments and keep a watchful eye for trouble in the neighborhood or school, what’s the harm?
Worse would be an average looking kid treated like an average kid. “Send them to school so I can get “me” back”. “Oh, bully problems? Toughen up and go away, wrestling’s on / desperate housewives is on”.
“My aunt and her husband are a straight couple obviously. My aunt’s husband is very aggressively pro straightness. They adopted a boy and when he was about 5 years old he started playing with a toy truck in a coffee shop. This convinced my aunt and her husband that my cousin is straight. They dress him in boy clothes and use he/him pronouns ever since. Kind of disturbing in my opinion. They tell him they are so proud of him for being straight and who he is. It’s definitely not fair to my cousin being so young and obviously being pressured.”
It’s happened and happens in the standard direction far more frequently, reinforced by TV, peers, teachers, church and community.
I’ll tell you why I have less of an objection: The support crew for reinforcing hetero / standard gender norms is a constant firehose compared to the garden hose of influence by parents and whatever small support team they can muster together.
Also, if they listened once but got it wrong it’s more likely they’ll listen AGAIN vs parents who never listen in the first place at all.
Um, they get labelled from birth regardless.
There’s not a “no label” option yet.