I admire your approach. I take a slightly different tactic, likely one that’s more befitting my nature perhaps. It’s not a better methodology by any means, just one I tend-towards.
I seek out the trolls and the angst-driven because they’re most in need. It can take some time but I strive to strike a friendship bond. It often requires some battling. There’s often years and years of hurt and while I’m not really trying to “fix” anybody [I don’t believe it’s possible for a person to fix another person… as I don’t think people are really broken], but rather, I just seek out friendship in unlikely places.
I have a contrarian nature, which is likely why I do it. Excessive agreement gives me hives I think. I can handle a few people agreeing with me but when it reaches a majority, I get contrary and take an opposing position and then try to resolve that opposing opinion into the main opinion somehow, in order to help expand the overall opinion.
I don’t REALLY know why I do it. Just a weird pattern I seem to follow.
I also seek out like-minded people as well. First I had to find what _my mind_ was like to understand where I’d find like-minded people.
And, it seems being slightly confrontational _is_ a part of how I seem to operate. I push buttons. I poke and prod. I expect to get that back in return.
Somewhere in the midst of it all, I seek out communication. It can take a while sometimes. People are often locked into scripts that they perform without realising it. You begin to see the patterns and know what’s coming next. I already saw you doing that earlier.
I wonder sometimes why I don’t adopt your methodology because it _seems_ to be suitable. But I guess I have a contrary nature and, even in this very post right here, I’m doing exactly what I seem to always do: Look for contrast, be slightly provoking without overly so and in the end, seeking out commonality without the need for someone else to really change at all. I think most people are fine the way they are, although I try to help some of the impossible see that friendship without common-enemy is possible by making myself into a minor enemy that’s defeatable in word-battles but who is shaking hands at the end of it.
I’m not better for this by any means. Just a weird distinction I noticed with a source unknown to me. I guess I like the back-and-forth of it.