It’s not something I’d ever suggest to someone unless they need it: It’s a coping mechanism.
Entrepreneurs often have ADHD and use hyperfocus to accomplish a lot of what makes their business successful, particularly in the building up phases.
Business owners can employ people who can hyperfocus and give them their own cubicles in order to work in as they can “get in the zone” and function as very productive employees if given the correct environment.
But normal everyday life, hyperfocus grates against normalcy.
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I know all too well. People who want to work with me have to accommodate – and if they do, they’ll get a level of dedicated work they’ve never seen before.
But if they expect to have their behaviors copied, they won’t get nearly that level of productivity and even much less.
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It’s a compulsion. It’s very difficult to do the same thing the same way twice.
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The problem is: I have people coming to me frequently – at least twice a month – that I will be perfect for their pet project.
And.. well. I wouldn’t be and I’m not.
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Oh I also strive for maximum efficiency once I get effectiveness. It depends what it is. Some tasks, like typing for example, can improve and improve and improve but you eventually hit a point you have maximized your capabilities of speed and accuracy. At that point, you can maintain.
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Oh I strive for the best method for a task. I’ll copy someone else’s best method if it seems to be the best method.
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Ah – but there’s a catch. It may be someone else’s best method but if it doesn’t work with how I work, then it is not the best method _for me_ to use. That is part of being best: it has to be compatible Otherwise it is a strain.
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Let’s say I have an iPhone and you have a PC.
The objectively best piece of software is available for the PC. But I do not have a PC. I have an iPhone.
So if you want the task done, you can give me a PC to run the best piece of software, or we can work together to find a COMPARABLE piece of software for the iPhone that will function the best for the iPhone.
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One of the benefits of the extra effort taken to find equivalent comparable pieces of software, even though it is a bother at first, is that it can be applied in the future to others. what it adds to the process is a quality:
Robustness.
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Another way to look at it, if one wants to take a war view, is tactics. If you know a person is a certain way with certain characteristics and you want them to accomplish certain goals for you, a good tactic is to understand their ways such that they will WANT to accomplish certain goals for you. It will seem effortless and natural because it is compatible to them and also fulfills your goals, even if their methodology isn’t like your own.
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I’m a hard person to sell a product or an idea to. I ask too many questions. I research. I don’t commit until I am certain. I am a pain in the ass.
BUT: If you sell to me in the right way, the exchange will be like butter and I will buy without hesitation. It is rare but it happens and I am glad I did it.
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Oh I’m thinking in terms of American in-your-face sales processes. Where I grew up everybody was selling something. I dealt with many pushy personalities, many with questionable motives.
So, I learned skepticism.
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Occasionally, I meet someone that is transparent. But it’s rare. There’s usually several layers before finding out some of what their real goals are. I was naive when I was young and thought everybody was transparent. But I learned and adapted.
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yeah. It’s not my favorite way to engage with people. One of the reasons I like online is I can be transparent, truer to myself.
But if I was applying for a job or buying something, the skeptical training comes in handy.
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The specialization may have helped with industry and technology growth but at the expense of the things that make us human.
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