It always sounded weird to my ears. Like, you can say, “baby’s got a black mom and white dad” doesn’t phase me. But “they’ve got a mixed baby” sounds off to me and always has.

It always sounded weird to my ears. Like, you can say, “baby’s got a black mom and white dad” doesn’t phase me. But “they’ve got a mixed baby” sounds off to me and always has.

I used to smash my food together for a long time but it was to break myself of a childhood habit of splitting it up. Then a few years ago, I realized, “oh, i’m happier when they’re not touching”, so I do it again.

*sigh*. I’m talking about people. Do I *really* have to edit this hill?

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I mean, what do I do with that extra information it imparts? I assume different people from different families congregate, have relationships, babies etc.

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As any kid should be. To me, it’s weird for same-ish to be with same-ish. It’s boring.

I should have clarified. As a self-descriptor, I’m fine with it. My issue is when it’s used as a by-word.

 

HILL: “Mixed” as a descriptor and concept needs to eventually go away because it is toxic to humanity.

[EDIT: self-descriptor is fine. I’m referring to its use as a ‘by-word’ – an adjective imparting a negative light cast upon the mixed [noun]. ]

“Mixed babies, mixed marriage, mixed schools, mixed communities.” These all imply there is something wrong with it, as if it’s “mixed up”, confused, or like letting food touch on your plate. I don’t like my food touching but I don’t care how people congregate but I *do* care about people passing ridiculous judgement on them for the most threadbare, vacuous “reasons”.

The concept needs to be gone along with “purity” and such.

 

  I suppose. It just always seems to have a slight negative cast to it, like a church-lady gossip way.
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 Maybe my issue is “not enough information”. By itself, mixed can mean a lot of things. Just look at “mixed marriage”
 who seem to be standing with me on this hill or close by. I’m glad for it but less than I’d expected. It’s a learning experience for me so far.
 Like, when I hear “interracial marriage” as a phrase (a form of the ‘mixed’ concept), I cringe, _not_ for any “mixed”-ness but rather for the need to point it out at all.
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  Wow, I’m starting to think I might have found a genuinely weird hill to die on. It didn’t seem so weird to me but I’m thinking maybe it is. Now… how to turn it into activism…
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Now for the Catholic Church, mixed marriage refers to Catholic + non-Catholic marriage.
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http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/09698a.htm
  I rarely heard the phrase “mixed” growing up except when it was in whispers and gossip and I never liked it. It would get me angry, and I’d be thinking “leave them the hell alone” in my head but being a kid, I just kept quiet.
 I’m not talking about self-identity. Identify however you like. I’m referring to how people refer to other people, in gossip and whispers and implications.
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  Context might be: You’re walking along, minding your own business, and you pass by a group of three girls and you overhear them whispering, “do you think she’s mixed?” “shhhh” “no, I think she’s mixed, I mean just look at her”.That’s the sort of thing my rant is about.
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  oh wow… people use that? I always thought it was a historical word. Mulatto does sound a lot worse.
  That’s a day I hope for. I mean it’s one thing to be proud of your own background / heritage / meaningful identity thing yet another for someone to make you take time out of your day to do an impromptu “Ask Me Anything!” session with them.
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  I try to “take out the trash” when I see it. I lost a few friends during BLM a couple of years ago trying to go over white entitlement etc but a few did ‘get it’.I consider it my responsibility because they embarrass me and make me look bad by being how they are.One thing a lot of the “edgibois” online don’t get is it’s not for virtue points, kudos, “white knighting” or whatever. I go through it because I hate seeing stupid, especially if their stupidness makes me look stupid by proxy.
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  I’d do it anyway for their sake as well. One educated person is one less toxic spewer. But I appreciate the thanks too.
  I think the ambiguity is probably part of what my problem is with it. I don’t know what to do with that information.I don’t ask people’s backgrounds because their family history is none of my concern but if someone tells me, of course I listen.But if someone says “so and so is in a mixed marriage”, it doesn’t mean anything useful to me.

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  Same. Plus, I like the challenge. There’s plenty of poop opinions around to work with too. My block list has only one person on it in about 10 yrs of Facebook and that was for spamming me.
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  oh yuck, way worse than a spammer. Glad to see a fellow “keeping communication lines open” type. I’m fine with people who have to block — it’s their online experience and I’m zapped plenty of bad comments for cleanup, so I understand wanting to have a decent experience. I just don’t like blocking people. Most can change or learn to be reasonable humans. Not all of course but I think most can.

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