intensely suffering the consequences of actively avoiding suffering.
its substituting physical and emotional intensity of suffering with acceptance of opportunities that neverwere.
its a not a self aware suffering but others look and say “oh that poor person who must be suffering not having (thing avoided to prevent intense suffering). “
to know if you have achieved a goal, there needs to be measurable criteria.
is it possible that when one has overcome suffering, the criteria is obliviousness to one’s own suffering?