Instead of crying, why not beat up your dog? Kick a cat? Start a road rage incident over a minor traffic infraction…

Instead of crying, why not beat up your dog? Kick a cat? Start a road rage incident over a minor traffic infraction…

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You’ve never worked with kids apparently. That’s when they learn it.

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I hold my emotions back but I don’t even know what they are 1/2 the time. I feel physical symptoms and have to reason through it to find a word. “Oh, ok, I guess I’m sad right now? Ok, I’m sad right now”. It’s stunted. but I learned young not to redirect it anger as that broke stuff that I then had to fix.

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anger that’s rightful anger is rightful. But misplaced anger is a problem, particularly when it forms in groups and is encouraged by laws, rules of acceptable behavior, financial incentives, etc

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It’s obvious to me. Robert’s got it. Carlin’s got it. Maybe you see something else but I don’t know what it is.

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There’s a distinction between emotional regulation and suppression.

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Toxic masculinity is suppression of emotion, with mocking and anger two of the few socially acceptable and sanctioned male behavioral outlets.

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It’s uncontrolled anger. Anger is in the description right there.

But you can subdivide anger into two parts:

Uncontrolled and controlled.

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Controlled anger isn’t always better either. Say a group gets together and they’re all angry at an individual. So they hatch a plan and channel their uncontrolled anger into a controlled burst of anger that results in a bad ending.

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Anger can be a useful emotion but for many it’s like having a TV with only a couple of channels on it.

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Letting them consume you until the emotion directs your actions.

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You’re wanting mind reading out of me here where I say the right words you want to hear. But I don’t know what that is.

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Not all angry men “go toxic”.

Toxic isn’t automatic.
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 I don’t know what the argument was about then, Different ways of wording the same things I suppose. Toxic masculinity is suppression of emotion – you’re not allowed to feel certain feelings.
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  Anger has a valve in toxic masculinity but it’s like a singular solution emotion. “Don’t cry, get mad” It’s not that it’s not a useful redirect sometimes but if it’s the only available redirection it’s a problem.
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