In the USA, it was commonly taught that “if you ignore racism it will pass on its own”, from the 1980s onwards. It didn’t work of course but a lot believed at the time. Instead, overt racism became obscured, substitute words entered into the lexicon of public discourse. So there’s decades of white people (and non-white too) who believe law changes worked. Removal of slurs from public acceptability worked. It didn’t though. It’s a deeper problem and attacking it at the surface ended up only being a “feel good” measure for those who originally caused the issue.

In the USA, it was commonly taught that “if you ignore racism it will pass on its own”, from the 1980s onwards. It didn’t work of course but a lot believed at the time.

Instead, overt racism became obscured, substitute words entered into the lexicon of public discourse.

So there’s decades of white people (and non-white too) who believe law changes worked. Removal of slurs from public acceptability worked.

It didn’t though. It’s a deeper problem and attacking it at the surface ended up only being a “feel good” measure for those who originally caused the issue.

Oh i hate the passive-aggressive / veiled threat / put-you-in-your-place stuff.

middle class can be ignorant of basic things. “you’re never too poor to be clean”. I remember hearing that one a few times.

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I had no father and had to construct mine from the best I found around me, so now I am my own father.

Never knew if this put me in a better or worse position than those with fathers – just different.

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What does it mean to be a man?” I saw plenty of examples of how *not* to be and a lot of what I became as a man is the good that I found that avoided the “nots”.

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Father fig is important – and I think it can come from many sources. Online I found myself in that position bunches of times and do my best to be decent, kind, a little standoffish from drama detail and come up with pointed general advice but mostly just to be a kind face out in the ethersphere. I want to make a difference without encroaching on individuality and hopefully I do ok.

I got this two days ago. So I don’t know about big data but I know that individuals matter.

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Wherever you go, you’re modeling “someone” for someone else. Not really “roles” just modelling. Every interaction, even these. So, am I myself or am I a mouthpiece for someone else? Stuff I ask myself constantly.

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I hate when I hear someone else’s voice come out of my mouth. Sometimes it’s alright – sense of humor and stuff – but when it’s one of my anti-models, I’m not happy with myself. Constant betterment work. Long way to go. I see too many people settling for their middle school personas and I didn’t want that for myself.

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It’s true – and it’s a shock sometimes. Some people can laugh it off, “Oh I’ve become my father / Oh, I’ve become me mother” but I figure they all had their choice for their voices. My turn for mine and I try to help folks find theirs. i n t e r n e t is great for that. Real life is too structured and roles too common.

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