In 1990, 18 years old, I went to a “women in media” seminar that showed all the hidden misogyny in movies, TV shows, music videos. Started off simple enough: Rod Stewart pointing a microphone up a women’s legs where the top half of her body wasn’t shown, etc.
Ended up with gang rapes in movies, which got a lot of people throwing up and leaving.
Afterwards for the few that survived, they had a “first class” for anti-rape.
First lesson? How to gouge out the eyes with your thumbs, including practice hints. (grapes).
That was the last day I wore contact lenses.
No. It’s not that men are that likely to commit rape.
It’s that the culture backs them up and supports them.
Example: Mike Pence. Mike Pence, who calls his wife Mother for some reason, will not be in the same room with another woman unless his wife is present.
That is an example of enabling rape culture: by codifying the assumption that all men are potential rapists and cannot be trusted.
“I think most of us know “why” not to commit sexual assault, but some of us dont know “how” not to commit sexual assault.”
Yeah, I wouldn’t put that public. No, I don’t think that is correct. That is saying all men are potential rapists. Are all men potential rapists?
I suppose it’s difficult for me to fathom being in the same category as rapists.
It is akin to talking about pedophilia and saying “Some of us can’t control ourselves around children”. It just doesn’t seem like a proper Venn diagram.
Maybe I just learned young. I’m high-T and strong so I learned as a young teenager to be careful with expressing violence.
I get the flash of violent thoughts occasionally even today and push them away. I don’t feed them. If I pick up a glass, I’m aware that I have a strong hand and am careful not to break it.
So, maybe y’all are right. I just got training.
If you’re strong, you have to learn your own strength and how to show restraint. The responsibility is primarily upon the strong. It must be.
My hero as a child was the Incredible Hulk (TV show). I fed the Banner side and was careful with the Hulk side.