I’ll just say this:
The forgetting curves are useful.
Around age 8, most kids forget most of the details of the stuff that happened prior. I suspect it happens at that time as that’s when the “drip drip drip” starting the puberty process begins… and why 3rd graders all seem crazy. Takes a few years though.
There’s a few forgetting curves in life. Used to have a chart.
Ah – it’s the Reminiscence chart.
I try to beat it.
I didn’t say I approve.
I’m saying I’m grateful because this stuff goes on whether I approve or not.
I have very strong opinions about child rearing but it’s too strong for casual “look at this popular video” discussion. Since nobody’s putting me in charge of child rearing and I’m not writing a book and my sphere of influence is limited, I’ll just say that “I’m glad the reminiscence bump is a thing”.
My statement covers not only this lil’ vid, but the crap that happens at school, among peers and neighbors and a WHOLE lot of violations of human dignity, worth, freedom and self-actualization that goes on.
Idiots raising parents are not new.
At least now they can compare notes and YOU CAN INTERVENE by bringing it up in groups where we can go “tsk tsk this should stop”.
Did you engage with any positive commenters on the original video?
That could enact change.
For a good nature/nurture thing, this is worth seeing if you haven’t already.
gist of it is: So what if they smoked the same cigarettes? Deep down they were totally different people.
There’s a loop but you’re skipping over something important inbetween.
AT edges, water flow forms eddies.
In this midsts of the eddy is a stillness.
Maintain balance and you can grow in that that stillness.
Learning to follow orders and obey CAN be a survival skill. Military training starts young in some families.
Can’t say I’m a fan of this style of parenting but I don’t walk in their shoes either.
I’d love to dismantle social power structures and eliminate this fiction once and for all.
But I can’t.
So, that’s why I regretfully don’t get worked up over this.
I’m arguing not with you but with myself. This falls under a “youth rights” category I’ve work on on and off since I was 18 seriously and informally prior starting around 5th grade.
I took childhood dev classes, understanding parenting styles, best and worst ways to do things, found my opinions.
But, if it’s “This is a shitty thing to make viral” as says and I’m taking it too deep, then I’ll back down.
That’s why I had to check your resolve. If it’s flippant, then I can be dismissive too. If it’s serious, I can go that route. I’ll probably swap to s POV though as I can get pretty involved in my opinion factory otherwise. I got lots.
From: HAMP::KUDUT “Children’s Rights List Co-ordinator” 26-SEP-1991 20:48:48.11
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