Well, I can only speak about my limited understanding of the stereotypical female point of view on this.
What she’s really saying is, “I need to figure this out for myself and I need you to listen and understand while I figure this out for myself. If you rush it, you ruin it and if you ruin it, you don’t love me.”
Guys tend to laugh at this way of thinking, but it’s serious for the women who follow this pattern.
Women are very mathematical about love.
Men tend to be mathematical about… math.