Me too, and yes you can. I used to think there wasn’t an algorithm for dealing with family but there is. I’ll write it in my own pseudo-code, and I’ll use the forbidden GOTO.
IF FAMILY = UNDER YOUR SOLE RESPONSIBILITY, GOTO END:
IF FAMILY = SIBLING AND/OR COUSIN AND/OR PARENT AND/OR AUNT-UNCLE AND/OR GRANDPARENT AND/OR OTHER HUMANS OF SUCH GENERATIONS
SAY WHATEVER YOU CAN TO GET BREATHING ROOM FROM THEIR EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION WITHOUT STRAYING TOO FAR FROM THE TRUTH, BUT ENOUGH FOR PARTIAL EFFECTIVENESS IN MANAGING YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE.
Think “You’re not the boss of me!”
Say “Yes, I’m making great progress!”
Show Them A Something (Variable Undefined)
Print “If they are your sole responsibility, they’re your kids or otherwise your responsibility. (Multi)(Uni)verse = Honesty.
However, you are not responsible to hold up to the full expectations of anyone not in the category of fully-dependent-on-you, unless you choose to.”