I think one should control thoughts around people to some degree, including children, because we can’t always control our facial expressions and body language and tone of voice. We sometimes *believe* our “thoughts stay in our heads” – but usually they come SPILLING OUT all over the place.
So, to some degree, that’s correct, but not the point of inauthenticity.
Around my nephew for example, I try to keep my thoughts positive and future oriented. SOmetimes I fail. Tonight for example, I was busy on a project and I growled at the cat for walking on my computer as I was yessing him to death about his Pokemon card story. He knew I was busy but he also knew I would listen.
But, because I didn’t control my thoughts, which were, “i’M busy damnit!” I got up, grumbling and fed the cat while muttering. He finished his story [he wont’ _not_ finish it] and then he went inside.
Normally he would have stayed here until I paid full attention to him.
I was kinda glad but also felt a little bad because I didn’t control my thoughts, which led to an action which led to me being what I consider to be rude.
A ridiculous tale but it’s true tongue emoticon
[I take it as a personal challenge to not let negative emotions get to me; he gets ignored by his family here in the house, so I take it as my duty to show that _somebody_ gives a shit – that’s the context of my ridiculously true story tongue emoticon ]