i show myself as a flawed person who makes mistakes by being myself as i am authentically as best i can.
i don’t want to be respected or listened to in particular but if someone wants to listen to me they can. I don’t want to be emulated and I will sour the milk if someone is suckling my teat suddenly by doing something embarrassing so they lose a little respect for me
I want kids to be their own people not to be me but if they get something out of me that’s great just don’t put their feet into mine please and if they do, don’t let me know about it until much later so i don’t try to stop it