I probably have high self-esteem. I don’t like being down for long. I’m easily knocked off my horse when I get into doing something for someone else and they turn and bite the hand that’s helping but that’s when I pack up and say “ok, all yours now then”. (ok, I don’t really. I just finish up quickly but without the dedication they got for free)
But as far as dealing with folks with low self-esteem? I bolster as much as I’m able – and I try to find the ways that work best for them: it’s a challenge. But then if I reach that point where “I’m just about out of gas”, I start chiding and joking to get them out of it and OCCASIONALLY, I get them mad at me.
Righteous indignation, while flawed and usually undesirable (imo) _is_ a step up from low-self esteem and is at least on the path away from feeling useless.
I’ll only OCCASIONALLY redirect the righteous indignation towards an ‘other’ but I avoid that as that can have disasterous consequences.