I keep batting my head against the wall with intersubjectivity, long papers about “joint attention”, tentatively nodding my head in uncertain agreement and then backing off when I realize yet again I’m not relating to it at all. Been down this path several times before, seeing this word that sounds great and seems to explain oh-so-much but then I see stuff on “theory of mind” and remember why I rejected theory of mind and then I look to find out where is the stuff on animals and intersubjectivity only to find that “no, it’s human-only” and before I know it, I’m back in sixth grade tests with questions like:
“What did the author mean in the 3rd paragraph when she said…?”
and wondering what kind of magic was I supposed to perform there. My scores (around 50% – guessing range) is objective proof that I had no idea what they expected me to do. I asked, they told me, but it made no sense.
So, because I can’t understand it, and refuse to see myself as not-quite-human, I have to put aside explanations that lean heavily upon intersubjectivity as the magic connector.