I guess what I don’t understand is how she sees it as a pride point. If she has a preference for who she wants to have kids with, that’s no big deal. It’s sort of expected.
But if she was a prick about *how* she expressed her rejection of non-qualifiers,, that’s not “just being honest”. That’s just being a prick without any tact.
I had an Aunt like that. She’d say something awful and follow it with, “I only speak the truth”. But, no, she was just being a prick without any tact. It’s fine if they want to be that way, but they shouldn’t expect people to fall all over them with flowers and hugs.