I guess I’m not understanding what you mean. It’s likely I’m aspergers, so perhaps my literalness isn’t seeing the message here.
When I write, I’m aware of what impacts I’m attempting to get out of someone else and I pay attention to my affect – tone of voice, etc. I notice the audience – for example, yours is more restricted so I speak more freely. If I saw a globe there, I’d be a little more careful.
As far as attention getting though? I guess I need examples. It’s probably something I do all the time and don’t know, or it’s something i don’t do and so can’t see in others, or maybe I frame it differently and so I’m missing it here.