I feel as if we choose but we’re also drawn-towards. What’s salient? What grabs our attention? What holds our attention? What brings us in and calls us towards itself?
What do we seek out? What do we lunge-towards, or open arms to embrace?
With whom and with what do we establish a dance? What encourages a soft and careful approach and what a definitive, clear, fast move?
Affordances comes to mind. Needs at the time revealing itself, encouraging usage appropriately.