I’ll give you an analogy: Why do some women want “the perfect wedding”?Disney.Swap Women : Men and Disney : Incel Memes
Serve identical purpose in this case.
Add a community of toxic individuals reinforcing each other’s ridiculous notions until they believe it’s all true and bammo.
Incels chase fairy tales.
When your grandmother was a little girl, this was probably a realistic expectation of men to expect of her.
When my grandmother was a little girl, having a career and supporting yourself was a realistic expectation of her. (she was born in 1918 and the 20s and 30s had a lot of opportunities for white women in cities).