“How to make not-online friends as an adult? ” My answer:
My lament from late adolescence through much of my 20s was this:
“Why can’t we just walk up to someone and say “wanna be friends?” like we did when we were little?”
It’s why I enjoyed being online so much then and still do today.
I’ve written much about it through the years: the difficulty of non-club oriented, not-part-of-a-couple, just-want-random-friends… don’t have kids or drugs or drinking or school or political leaning or a particular religion as an excuse… and it’s in ‘men-can-stand-alone-and-don’t-need-anybody-America” where your job should be all you need for your identity.
and so… my answer from late adolescence to middle age has been the same: online. Did other non-online ways to make/keep friends to varying degrees of success, but my longest term and best friends have all been scattered across the world.
Heard all the advice. Tried 60-70% of it over the years. Still like online best. So, I’m no good for an alternative answer for you