First internet friend I met lived in Spartanburg SC. Waay back. 1990. I was a teenager. My friend and his mom were from Rhode Island but the dad dragged them down to Spartanburg at some point. Abusive asshole, got restraining order etc, so I never met him.
I visited for two weeks during summer of 1990. A month before I was there, they’d had a break in and stuff stolen. Just a mom and son there, Was surprised she let his internet friend stay for two weeks but I think she was just happy to give him something to do.
It was in the outskirts, don’t remember where. We only went to town a time or two. I remember redneck types mostly. He got bullied a lot and hated it.
So I didn’t know about high crime but I wasn’t left with a good feeling about Spartanburg SC. Didn’t seem like a nice place.
Sorry about your cousin. Can’t even imagine.
Keep bitching. Gotta get it out of you somehow. Here is as good a place as any.
I think we went to a gigantic buffet that had only fried chicken. Never saw anything like it. It was amazing. We were only a few of the white people there but that was fine.
Only thing strange about it that I remember is the character of a lot of the local black people at the buffet. In New Jersey, where I came from, black and white didn’t make any difference. Equal as far as I was concerned and I was never treated differently by black friends.and I never saw a difference except speech patterns.
But here, I felt like everybody lowered themselves just a little, like a service manner. Almost a deferring, like I was gonna do something crazy so better lower heads a little.
I was just a teenager but I didn’t like that power. I could only guess that whites must be regular assholes there, and if my friend got bullied constantly, I guess whites were regular assholes.