I’ve found very few labels for self-identification so far. I accept a few labels people stick on me and use them when it makes conversation easier though but they took a while for me to agree to.
I don’t like “white” but I use it if it’s useful in a conversation about “race”.
I’m male but masculine/feminine are mostly meaningless terms for me except in the context of roleplaying, which is something most children based on what they see and imagine and many continue roleplaying throughout their lives.
I used to call them “scripts”, like scripts in a play that you read off when it’s your line… and I think a lot of people, myself included as much as I try to not be on a script, use these scripts to navigate communication.
But roleplaying is a better descriptor now to me because it’s become so commonplace and quickly understood, whereas at one time, scripts made more sense to use as a description.
I think we all are non-binary. Trans can be a little different though. When I see trans used by itself, I usually take it to mean someone is taking an active participatory role in revising their male/female down to a biological level so much as is possible for them to do so.
If you wanted a simplified unicorn, perhaps male/female/intersex/trans ? I think they’re all biological.
Yet then there’s gender and that’s where lines are blurring, which I think is somewhat the point of all of the label soup.
Or, would you prefer trans be replaced with intersex? [that is, if someone is trans, would you say they’re choosing intersex and not male or female?]
Here’s someone I know – I posted this yesterday here I think.
If you got this, what would you say? Myself? I’m thrilled she’s found her happy.
Now let’s say these options weren’t available as they weren’t years ago.
Is society in a position to accept someone who feels SO out of place that they’re willing to take drastic measures to make physical changes?
What would you suggest as an alternative? I don’t know if my friend is attracted to women or men, both or neither so it’s not a question of sexual attraction that’s changing. But something is.