Depends on you. Some people like the push-and-pull of ongoing dissonance. “A good debate”. Some people like cooperation, finishing each other’s sentences and such.

Depends on you. Some people like the push-and-pull of ongoing dissonance. “A good debate”. Some people like cooperation, finishing each other’s sentences and such.

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Seems opposites attract but long lasting partnerships require some common ground.

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I don’t know what ‘too similar’ to me would be like honestly. I’ve been out of relationships for a long time ’cause I’d always end up with the fiery angry easily rattled personalities when I was the calm rational one. Attracted by their differentness but I was their rock and it got to be a bit much.

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I wouldn’t want or expect a mirror (I’ve never seen a mirror of me and probably wouldn’t recognize a mirror of myself if I saw it in another person), but I suspect if I pursued relationships again, it’d be with someone who is generally cerebral who liked to
 
Anything beyond cerebral
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It sounds like you have compatible temperaments. That’d be enough to establish a strong foundation.
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You’re both liquid though that’s what makes it work. You can fit in the same bottle. But if you’re water and she’s a nuclear reaction… or sodium…
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  In thinking about the very short history of the “nuclear family” idea, I’m thinking it was a creation of the newly minted mortgage industry in the early 1950s in order to encourage big families to split up and buy separate houses in order to build up their coffers.
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 Well, traditional family is a shitload of people living in one house.
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 Siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, family friends that the kids would call “uncle” and “aunt” but weren’t really related…
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 Nah, just the pre-1950s TV family.
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 The nuclear family is a modern construction. They’ve called it traditional for decades but think about it: “nuclear”. Nucleus. Just the basics. Mom, Pop, Kids, Dog. No extended family.It’s an oddity of modern times.
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 Austerity’s good. Nothing wrong with that. I worry about running out of liquid cash so I usually buy stuff to keep. But if you have a disposable income and can continually buy what you need as you need it, you can do a micro home with few possessions.
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 I know families that hardly own anything beyond a TV and computer and beds and they go out to eat all of the time, or to the gym, or other places than home.
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 Their houses are always clean because they don’t own anything much. Plus they move a lot. People with traveling jobs like sales often move their families around a lot so they really can’t own anything much.
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 Ah. Well, self-sufficiency means owning a few things. I tried doing a self-sufficient garden here but the soil sucks for it. 8 gardens in a row before I gave up. Raised pigs a few times. We still raise chickens here for eggs.
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 You can downsize where you are. Minimize your possessions. You can minimize your living space. Reduce your use of appliances. Whatever it is you plan to do in a downsized situation you can practice wherever you’re at.
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 Awesome! Sounds like you’re well on your way to a custom-made tiny home. [those shows are intriguing, although the art of ergonomically designing human livable spaces has been around a long time. The trailer industry nailed it long ago with models like this. Looks tiny from the outside, but inside it sleeps four people and two people can work together comfortably in it. They have the floor plans mastered in commercial campers, which can give ideas if you’re building your own]
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 Some people take a trailer like this one as a “core” and built a permanent home around them, so that you never know the inside was once a trailer like this.
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