But – what of what we said is actually “you” and what is part of a script you learned long ago and only feels like you?

I don’t believe stereotypes are a good thing *but* they seem to be a reality that I can’t avoid entirely.

So I get around it by recognizing that there _may_ be *some* truth in the stereotypical labels thrown at me through the years and I have learned the ways in which I appear to fit vs where I actually *do* fit vs where I don’t fit.

Consider it in these terms:

Through life, we accumulate scripts we like. They can come from movies, from people we admire, from people we don’t like. They’re little little plays that we re-enact over and over again as we go through life.

Someone says a particular thing, then we respond in a fashion that feels agreeable and then we carry on.

But – what of what we said is actually “you” and what is part of a script you learned long ago and only feels like you?

Example: I consider myself unique and an individual. Why do I think that? That’s a way of thinking. That way of thinking came from somewhere.

Scripts. I like the script where I play the part of the guy who is an individualist, that believes everybody is unique and a special sunflower that’s been unrecognized by this harsh world we call home.

I’m the perfect middle school guidance counsellor. In fact, on career tests, that often shows up as #1, and I can’t argue it – I could be one tomorrow.

But why? It’s one of the scripts that suits me and that I follow unconsciously most of the time.


I’ll give another example of how we can follow scripts and not even see it:
You said:

“As humans we want to put people in boxes but my brain just doesn’t do that until I really know the person.

Of course it makes sense, but it doesn’t make sense coming from you. “

Ask: Why doesn’t it make sense coming from me?

It’s because I didn’t follow the script there.


And now for the part that blew *my* mind when I realized it:
EVERYTHING I JUST SAID IS ALSO A SCRIPT. It’s because I read a book called Scripts People Play that was sitting on the back of the toilet growing up and was part of a pop psychology movement of the time:
So what’s me?
Where am I?
Damned if I know tongue emoticon
And THAT – those last three lines, makes me fit the stereotype of the “typical INFP” – a stereotype I’m _mostly_ ok with sometimes tongue emoticon

I like archetypes better than stereotypes anyway tongue emoticon Right there, I was playing the archetype or Trope of the “Wise Dad” from TV shows Who Explains It All. I’m not though. I’m just a guy sitting behind his computer typing in a facebook group.

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