But that’s the thing: they missed the point. Autonomy does matter.

When I heard he and his family are moving to Qatar, I instantly understood and am embarrassed that “the West” is allowed to behave this way at all. 

You heard the Shakespeare thing, “The lady doth protest too much methinks”? When I saw the huge rally of support for him from the president, NASA, all sorts of big people I thought, “Ok, they’re trying to pin this on the police force in question.. to show that “no we’re really an accepting nation”.

But we’re not. We’re really not. It’s not just the school faculty or right wing evangelical Christian groups from the south…

..it’s also hiding in plain sight within liberal Great White Hope do-gooder activities. I went to a college like that. Multicultural studies had its own kind of white elitism, a “We, the educated white, understand you people better than the uneducated whites and we will step in and help you because you can’t do it on your own.”

Granted, the offer for help is nice and I believe in speaking for those who can’t speak for themselves, or translating for people whose intentions may be obscured through cultural differences.

But the element of superiority remains. It can be hard to see, but it’s there. 

An example I found recently was from a friend of mine who is handicapped. He hates when people try to help him.

“Oh you poor thing. As I am able-bodied and you are differently-abled, I’ll help you.”

His answer was always, “fuck off, I can do this myself.”

They would find him rude and were angry that he was ungrateful for their help.

But that’s the thing: they missed the point. Autonomy does matter.

Still, it’s a hard balancing act. How do you know if you’re going about it the right way?

I guess it’s a case of teeter-totter. A little weeble over in this direction, a little wobble over in that direction, try to keep from falling over or ending up joining a group whose aims may end up NOT coinciding with your own but take you in directions you really don’t to find yourself in.

That’s why I try to keep a variety of people around smile emoticon

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