I’ll occasionally put on an act when trying to get a point across. One thing I might do a little differently is I occasionally dip down and show, “Hey, look, I’m human here”.
I’ve been told that I’m “emotionally expressive” online, or at other times “refreshing”. While I’m not entirely sure what that means, I have _some_inkling. For me, the people connection comes first and my convincing comes secondarily. I don’t need someone to agree with me, I need El Che to be a friend, with whom it is nice to also have agreement. Since you are my friend, there’s already a host of agreements that come with it for free, even if our reasoning processes, hypothesis and conclusions may occasionally differ in their expressions. For me, that’s the stuff worth living for, for I could easily be alone, given some unwanted set of circumstances in life. But if I’m made some kind of connection, then in some sense, I am still connected in some way… if even a word or a sense has jiggled a piece of the mental machinery within someone else within them to consider me a friend. I’ve got a ‘spot’ and with that spot, comes influence whether I am there or not. Weird perspective, granted, but it’s the best explanation I can do at present.
Kenneth Udut El Ché Yeah, I had to learn to decouple my emotions starting when I was 11 years old, well, actually by 8, but at 11 I could do no more on my own and my mother sent me to biofeedback training for a few months once a week. I learned to breath through my feet, be a warm bottle in the sun, listen to these strange cassette tapes with new age (early 80s style… and… new age style really hasn’t progressed) and breath.
It was called the “QR Method” which doesn’t really exist anymore, but the ‘gist’ of it is as old as the hills.
I’ll be 43 in a couple of weeks, and while I’ve added cigarettes to the breathing method sometimes, just the same, I still do it to this day. It works.
I also have a mental slogan: “You will not emotionally manipulate me.”
I wanted to punch Sarah McLaughlin, the ASPCA (or whoever did it) for their Arms of an Angel commercial, because I know just how MUCH research and psychology goes behind emotional manipulation for advertising. And when I felt a slight “choking up” feeling in the first commercial, I mentally stopped myself, and was simultaneouly impressed by their success, (I was like, “You ALMOST got me, you ….”) and annoyed because of all the millions of dollars they were going to rake in by emotional manipulation techniques.
Kenneth Udut El Ché But to be honest, I do not support the use of anger, belittling, bullying and hyperbole for the purposes of convincing another person about something, whether or not one has internal equanimity.
To me, that is Dark Side. So if you occasionally see me being argumentative in this regard, this is why. I don’t have any trouble with the game-playing, but I prefer when the cat eventually lets the mouse go and not continue the tease. Or, in some cases I’ve seen in internet debate, some are not satisfied until they’ve devoured the mouse partially, left it a bloody living mess and the mouse runs off to painfully lick its torn skin, shattered bones and eventually runs off to a corner to die.
I’ve never been a fan of excessive cat-and-mouse games among humans, honestly. We’re not cats. We’re not mice. We’re humans.