Becoming literate in this takes time. There’s no need to worry. It’s just that we’ve been told the world’s a certain way.
Now that more voices are saying, “Yoo-hoo? We’re here too.” it’s an eye-opener and I look at my mistakes as opportunities to listen and learn a few things.
I remember finding out that I was (default). When I said “people”, I meant “white men of a certain class”. I didn’t know that’s what I meant, but I did because it was so easy to contrast “people” with other groups of people (who are also people).
It was a slow realization. I used to argue, “I reject labels and you should too”, not actually listening to why it’s so easy for me to remove the labels but so hard / impossible for people who _weren’t_ also (default) to do so.
I’m picking on Bette Midler because it was an avoidable mistake and tonedeaf. Hopefully a little embarrassment and she’ll start learning.
I like seeing things from novel perspectives so I don’t mind and I’m lucky that I can hide behind being clueless (white guy) (think Tim Allen back in 90s Home Improvement days) when I screw up, giving me time to improve.