I’m glad you overcame whatever hurdles you had in childhood.
It’s the “nature/nurture” thing. Depending who you ask, some emphasize one over the other, sometimes one to the exclusion of the other.
But a bit of looking back at one’s own past seems to be the thing that puts it into perspective.
It’s like we’re born with traits: twin studies seem to show that, especially the widely separated from birth. [most extreme example I know is one raised Nazi and one raised Jewish during the second world war]
At the same time, we may have TENDENCIES towards certain ways of thinking and behaviors but the environments we’re raised in can amplify or inhibit.
Let’s say I’m sociopathic by nature. [I’m not thankfully but I could’ve been].
I’m raised in a house that teaches the rationality of kindness, decency, the importance of getting-along with others, following rules because they’re ultimately practical, etc.
The extremes of sociopathic tendencies can be tamed. In extreme cases, threat of punishment, which works for sociopaths in closed environments, is available.
I find that a good case for nurture making a big difference and also a good case for the importance of reasoning, especially in people whose empathy skills are lacking or nearly unavailable due to whatever they’re born with.
So, statistics-be-damned, you’re here and you’re not abusing. Why? Probably something only you could figure out for yourself with your own stories and experiences.